August 18
 

First off, if you've sent me any email between Sunday and today and I didn't reply, it was beacause I've been kind of busy the past couple days and haven't had the opportunity to sit down and go through it all.  I say GO THROUGH it all because when I finally DID check my mail this morning, there were 13,690 messages.  I am 100 percent certain that 13,686 of those were spam, so I just deleted my inbox.  Hopefully, you didn't have anything earthshattering to tell me.  If you did, please resend the mail, and I mostly promise not to delete it this time.
 

Now, secondly, my grandmother's cardiologist called my mother on Monday night, after she (Eleanor, not my mom) had an appointment with him.  That's fairly unusual, you know, for a doctor to go out of his way to get in touch with a family member after an appointment.  Anyhow, he told her that he was under the impression that my grandmother was suicidal.  That her current mental and physical health state were being tested way beyond what was normal or acceptable for a 79 year old woman to be going through, and it was time for family intervention.  In our case, family intervention means putting Angelo in a home.  I may or may not have mentioned that I didn't think my grandmother would ever be able to make that decision, and I know her very well.  I know what she's doing.  If she dies, she will be able to die without ever having put her husband of 65+ years in a home.  If she dies, the decision is immediately made by someone else, and she can float up to heaven with no guilt.  By NOT making a decision, she's forcing a decision.  I mean, I haven't even touched on how horrible he is.  How he doesn't EVER sleep at night.  How he wanders around the house, talking to people who aren't there, how he engages her in conversations that make no sense at all.  How he tells her all about the First Eleanor.
 

I don't really want to talk about it right now, but the bottom line is that my mom and aunt have stepped in, and we're looking for a home for him right now.
 

What a terrible Wednesday this has been already.
 
 
 
 

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